Trystan Reese, a transgender man living in Portland, Oregon, has given birth to a boy with his partner of seven years, Biff Chaplow.
Trystan Reese, 34, was born as a girl. A decade ago he did hormone therapy, but he has kept his ‘original parts’, enabling him to get pregnant.
Last year he had a miscarriage, but he and his husband Biff Chaplow have finally welcomed their first biological child into the world, a baby boy named Leo.
Daddy: A transgender man named Trystan Reese, 34, gave birth to a healthy baby boy this month
Joy: Little Leo was born two weeks ago with a clean bill of health
Big news: This is the first biological child for Trystan (left) and his husband Biff Chaplow (right)
Happy family: The couple already has two adopted children
Pure bliss: They have taken to social media to share their happiness
They shared their elation over the news with several news outlets, with Trystan telling WGN9 he was ‘overjoyed’ and ‘elated’.
‘The moment he was born was just like a pure moment of bliss, like the happiest moment of my life,’ his husband Biff added in an interview with Fox19. ‘Just to see the very beginning of Leo, of his life, was just amazing.’
Trystan and Reese adopted two children after Biff’s sister was found unfit to be their guardian — but when they first got together, it didn’t occur to them they’d have biological children.
‘I thought I was giving up having a family — I didn’t even think of it as an option,’ Trystan told Buzzfeed. ‘I didn’t ever dream of having, or wanting to have, a biological child. One, I didn’t think it would be possible, and two, it took a long time for me to be strong enough in my identity as a man to be able to do that.’
When Trystan first brought it up with his husband, Biff said no and took some time to come around to the idea. Now, though, they are thrilled with the decision.
Special: The couple made news when they announced the pregnancy and know they’re unique
Miracle of life: Trystan, who was born a girl, kept his ‘original parts’ and temporarily stopped taking testosterone to conceive
Excited: Both parents said they were thrilled to welcome their first biological baby
Second time’s a charm: Their son, Leo, was a welcome addition to the family, especially after the couple had a miscarriage last year
Bumping along: Trystan was worried about going to the doctor as a transgender father, but said that ‘there just hasn’t been an ounce of transphobia from anyone’
Trystan gave birth to a healthy baby boy despite he has suffered a miscarriage at six weeks last year.
Under the supervision of doctors they again started trying, with Trystan stopping giving up his testosterone treatment in order to conceive healthily.
Initially, Trystan wanted to wait for a year before he and Biff had another go at conceiving, but given the complications of restarting and then stopping the testosterone again led the dads to speed up their plans.
‘I think my body is awesome. I feel like it’s a gift to have been born with the body that I did, and I made the necessary changes so that I could keep living in it, both through hormones and through other body modifications,’ Trystan wrote on Facebook.
For the second time it took longer for them to conceive, and they even became worried that they had missed their ‘only chance.’
So proud: He said he loves his body and what it can do
Take two: Trystan and Biff started trying again soon after the miscarriage
Love: Trystan admitted he didn’t think having kids was in the cards for him until he met Biff
All smiles: At first, Biff thought having kids was a crazy idea, but he has clearly come around
Happy family: The couple adopted Biff’s niece and nephew after his sister and her boyfriend were found to be neglectful due to substance abuse problems
After trying for six months one day Trystan woke up feeling sick. Biff took the kids to school and Trystan took a pregnancy test and discovered the good news.
This time the couple were more careful. Trystan began ‘obsessively’ weighing himself and took multiple pregnancy tests in the weeks to come.
At the six-week ultrasound appointment, the couple called ahead to the OB-GYN’s office to let them know the patient was trans.
‘I would say it’s unique,’ Reese admitted after giving birth. ‘I understand that people are not used to two men having a biological child.’
Trystan felt the advanced warning was a necessary precaution, based on his experience as a transgender individual.
Daily battles: While still expecting, Trystan admitted that he hides his baby bump when he is out in public
‘I think trans men having babies will continue to be rare,’ the new dad said
In it together: The pair struggled to conceive after suffering through a miscarriage, but eventually Trystan was pregnant again
‘I can feel someone looking at my face and searching for the remnants of womanhood, he said on the WNYC podcast the Longest Shortest Time. ‘They kind of squint their eyes a little bit and I can tell they’re trying to take away my beard, they’re trying to de-transition me in their heads.’
‘Every person wouldn’t even bat an eye that there was a dude with a beard claiming to be pregnant who is here to get bloodwork done — and I have been trans long enough to know that doesn’t come magically,’ he said.
Though stories like these are incredibly high-profile, Trystan thinks trans men having babies will remain unique.
‘I think trans men having babies will continue to be rare — though it certainly happens and we are nowhere near the first,’ he said. ‘Most trans men don’t have the relationships with their body that would allow them to engage in something that still feels so rooted in femininity. It’s something that their mothers did, their sisters did.
‘I hope that some of that is social, that it isn’t an inherent part of being transgender. I hope more people will get to the place that I’ve gotten to from the support of the people around me. I hope the negative stigma around it lessens. People won’t say, “Well, you’re not really a man then.”‘