A pub owner has fallen in love with his gold-colored X-Type Jaguar named ‘Goldie’ says he makes love to it due to a rare disorder.
Darius Monty, of Staines, Surrey, has fallen madly in love with it and even makes love to ‘her’.
Monty suffers from a sexual condition called mechanophilia, a disorder that makes victims fall in love with non-living objects and feel strong physical attraction towards them.
And the pub owner’s inanimate object of choice is Goldie, which he bought two years ago second hand, paying only £2,000 for the car, built in Halewood, Liverpool, in 2004.
Monty told: ‘I don’t expect people to understand because it’s not something I fully understand myself. I didn’t choose this but I have fallen for a car, just like other people fall for women.
‘I find her arousing, I love spending time with her and she is very important to me. I don’t see her as an object, I look at her and I see my lover.’
Monty said that he was in a loving relationship with a woman before finding Goldie, but things turned upside down when he realized he had feelings towards the car.
He said: ‘I didn’t see anything strange about myself or my sexuality at all. I’ve always been a car lover, but if someone told me it was possible to have sexual feelings towards something that’s not human I’d have laughed them off just like people laugh at me now.
‘I can’t really explain what triggered it, but I went to view Goldie and had always wanted an X-Type Jaguar.
‘Her colour is so unique and after I’d handed over the cash, all I wanted to do was go and polish her.
‘I pulled into the jet wash and was making circular motions on her bonnet with a cleaning cloth when I suddenly felt unexpectedly aroused.
‘It was something about the smooth, shiny paintwork and the perfect curves of the car that got me turned on.
‘I tried to ignore the feeling and just put it down to excitement about having a new car.
‘But when I got home and sat down to watch TV I had a real urge to venture into the garage and visit her in private.
‘I had a girlfriend at the time and I didn’t dare tell her what was going through my mind so I used the excuse that I’d left my wallet in the car and headed out.
‘I wasn’t exactly sure what would happen as the feelings were all new to me.
‘I just knew I felt really turned on by the notion of having sexual intercourse with my new car.
‘Immediately afterwards I felt ashamed and guilty, but I knew right then it wouldn’t be the last time. I walked away feeling so confused about what I’d just done.’
Monty said that he was perplexed by his infatuation towards the car and turned to the internet to see if there were other people like him out there.
‘I discovered there is a condition called mechanophilia,’ he told The Mirror. ‘Knowing others had feelings towards cars, bikes or planes definitely put me at ease but it was a really difficult thing for me to accept.’
But the pub owner couldn’t seem to stay away from the car, and his passion for Goldie soon became a daily ritual.
He would return from his night shift at the pub and make love to the car, something he kept hidden from those closest to him, including his girlfriend.
‘I was enjoying having sex with my car more than with my girlfriend,’ he said. ‘I even missed the car when I went up to bed at night and felt bad for leaving her alone in the garage. When I broke the news to my girlfriend she left me right away.
‘I could understand her thinking my behaviour was odd, but deep down there was a sense of relief there for me in knowing that I had got things out in the open and I was free to pursue my relationship with Goldie.
‘I decided to disclose my feelings to a couple of my close friends too. They laughed at first thinking I was joking, but once they realised I was being serious they told me I was weird and that I need to get psychological help.
‘It really upset me knowing I didn’t have any kind of support or understanding from other people.’
Despite negative reactions from his friends, Monty refused to give up his love for his car.
‘I wasn’t going to let other people convince me I had a medical problem just because I have a different sexuality,’ he said.
Monty said he ‘genuinely’ loves Goldie and enjoys their ‘private time together’, saying he has never felt this way about another car.
He told The Mirror: ‘I genuinely do love Goldie and I enjoy our private time together. I have never had loving or sexual feelings for any other vehicle, and I firmly believe I have something special with Goldie.
‘I realise most people will think what I do is wrong in some way, but I’m not hurting anyone so what’s the harm?’
Still, Monty said that his relationship with Goldie is just getting stronger. He even retired her from the road to keep her in pristine condition.
‘She doesn’t cheat on me or moan about me not doing the washing up,’ he said. ‘She doesn’t have the ability to be in a bad mood.
‘I haven’t lost sight of the fact Goldie is a machine and probably doesn’t love me back – I am not delusional in the sense I’d think she has her own mind.’
And even with Goldie playing a huge role in his life, Monty would still love to find a human girlfriend and start a family.
He said: ‘I’ve met a few women since falling in love with Goldie and I am always completely open about her from the start.
‘A couple of them have been open to giving things a go, but when I take my trips out to the garage to see her they say they just find it all too weird.
‘I’d love to get married and have a family if I’m honest. But the next woman I date will have to be OK about sharing me with Goldie.’
Monty isn’t the only one.
Dr Mark Griffiths, professor of behavioural addiction at Nottingham Trent University, told The Mirror: ‘It’s rare, but there are other people around the world who have fallen in love with their car.
‘Object sexuality goes beyond the sex. This is someone with a deep emotional romantic attachment with an inanimate object, in this case the car. There’s nothing wrong with him in a psychological sense.
‘Yes it’s strange, yes it seems bizarre to most people and yes it’s unusual, but he doesn’t need psychological treatment.
‘If Darius wants to spend the rest of his life living in a non-normal relationship with Goldie that does no harm to him or anybody else, that’s OK. I have no problems with anybody’s sexual behaviour as long as it’s consensual.
‘If other people see his behaviour as bizarre that is totally irrelevant.’
Dr Griffiths added: ‘Darius can seek treatment if it’s psychologically harming him, but it sounds like he knows it’s unusual and he seems OK with it.’